Have you ever witnessed a domestic violence incident between a couple? How many of you have tried to intervene? ‘Don’t hit her you idiot’ Or do you tend to stand back and observe the scene and give a running commentary to anyone who will listen? ‘Can you believe he just hit her? It’s so bad. I feel sorry for her’
Domestic violence on any accounts is wrong. A real man does not raise his hands to strike a woman. Yet statistics show that domestic violence is on the up. 1 in 4 women will be a victim of domestic violence in their lifetime – many of these on a number of occasions.
We assume that women who suffer from physical or mental abuse must be weak and insecure. But, this isn’t the case. Rihanna is a strong, confident woman and yet it happened to her. Why as women do we allow men to control and abuse us?
I witnessed a scene of domestic violence yesterday at a concert. You could see it happening as the guy had already lashed out at the girl and walked away from her. But, her mistake is that she waited for him and allowed him to speak to her like that in front of an audience of music lovers. She should have walked away at that point and told him to go and kiss her ass and shove his drink where the sun doesn’t shine. But, no she sat quietly and let him say whatever he wanted.
Out of nowhere a fight erupted and all you saw was him throwing punches at the girl. He missed her and hit her friend instead. The crowd just stood and watched. The only people who intervened were women. The fellas just carried on shaking their thing and drinking their drink. I watched in disbelief and couldn’t believe that in crowd of 16,000 people a scene of domestic violence had taken place. This wasn’t behind closed doors, but literally in front of an audience. The guy’s friends held him back, but stayed with their boy. They should have left his sorry ass and told him he’s a fool.
So, what would you do if you witnessed a scene like this or if it happened to you?