Mixed relationships…How do we view them?

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Have you heard of the song Ebony and Ivory?

Does black and white mix as good football and men. Are we more drawn to races that are different to ours? Do we secretly desire the unknown and want to taste forbidden fruit? Do you like blue eyed blonde’s or bearded men or chocolate skin with big brown eyes.

What do you think when you see a black and white or black and Asian or Asian and white couple? Nothing at all, it’s normal. Sell out and traitors. Can they not find their own kind? Stealing our men and women. Are these the thoughts that enter your head. I’ll admit when I was younger and more ignorant I did not like seeing Asian men with white women. I would wonder what they saw in them and secretly thought to myself, he isn’t going to marry her and it’s just a time pass. Now I am a lot and wiser. At least I like to think I am. Mixed relationships do not faze me and I welcome them.

In big cities like London mixed couples blend into the background and don’t stop traffic. But, in some Northern or rural cities mixed couples can raise eyebrows and turn heads. How many times have you seen a mixed couple and took a double take? When I was growing up in the Midlands we were the only Asian family in the the town and the white boys never looked twice at me. For them I was dirty and not worthy. Or it could have been that they just didn’t find me hot.

Mixed children can find it hard growing up, as often they can be rejected by both races. The mixed Pakistani and white girl does not look Asian at all, yet can speak Punjabi. The Asian kids at schools don’t know what to do with her. Some find her fascinating and others think she is not one of them, so don’t include her into their group. The English children tease her about her colouring. What is this girl whose torn by two identities meant to do? What culture should she accept and embrace. It is not easy fitting into two cultures as you can never please everyone. Therefore, it is better to just be true to yourself.

The mixed black and white girl has crazy afro hair, green eyes and tanned skin. She has both Caucasian and African features. The girls hate on her, as the black men go crazy for her skin colour. She doesn’t have to spend as long as her black sisters taming her wild mane. When she straightens her hair you cannot tell that she is mixed and some can mistake her for being Spanish. But is it her fault? No, so don’t hate on her and accept her.

Do these mixed people get the best of both worlds? Are they are at advantage? Or do they find it harder to fit in? How do you react towards them? One of my closest friends is mixed, half black and half white. She says she is more accepted by white people than she is by black women. Black men don’t think she is black enough due to her taste in women, and some black women hate on her because of her lighter skin tone. She did not ask to be mixed, so treat her fairly and equally.

Fashionably late or always on time?

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How much of our life do we spend rushing around to one place or another? We spend most of our time travelling to work, home, leisure or anywhere that takes our fancy. How important is time? Are you always fashionably late or punctual? My time keeping isn’t the best and I can often miss appointments by a few minutes. I’ve missed a tube and train by 30seconds and had to buy a new ticket. Why didn’t I just leave a few minutes earlier? Because, I thought I could make it. I even calculated the time I needed in my head. But, one single delay caused me to miss my train.

Do you often sit around waiting for people to show up? Half an hour you said, it’s been an hour and your still not here. How we hate others being late, but its fine if were not on time.

How important is a minute? A lot when you have a train or flight to catch. Timing can be crucial at certain moments of our lives. A passed encounter can cause you to meet someone unexpected.

Fashionably late is fine if you’re a diva or pop star, but not so great if you’re a mere employer…

takes our fancy. How important is time? Are you always fashionably late or punctual? My time keeping isn’t the best and I can often miss appointments by a few minutes. I’ve missed a tube and train by 30seconds and had to buy a new ticket. Why didn’t I just leave a few minutes earlier? Because, I thought I could make it. I even calculated the time I needed in my head. But, one single delay caused me to miss my train.

Do you often sit around waiting for people to show up? Half an hour you said, it’s been an hour and your still not here. How we hate others being late, but its fine if were not on time.

How important is a minute? A lot when you have a train or flight to catch. Timing can be crucial at certain moments of our lives. A passed encounter can cause you to meet someone unexpected.

Fashionably late is fine if you’re a diva or pop star, but not so great if you’re a mere employer…

Death waits for no one

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There are only two guarantees in life; death and birth. Live your life to the max and like it’s your last day. How many times have you heard people chant these sayings? Would it make a difference if we knew when we would die? How many of us would want to know how and when we die? We will all at some point experience some in our lives dying.

I heard the news of my cousin’s death through my cousin. He died of a heart attack suddenly. A healthy man in his late thirties with four children. He had everything to live for. Was it his time to go? The news came as a shock and of course I was grief stricken and my heart went out to his loved ones. But, I was unable to cry as I didn’t have a bond or connection with him. Does that make me heartless and not compassionate? What shocked me the most was that he’s only a few years older than me and he wasn’t ill.

We never know how to deal with death properly. No matter how prepared we are for it and know that our time or those of our loved ones will come, it still comes as a shock. Remember to all cherish those you love as you don’t know when they will be gone forever.