Mixed relationships…How do we view them?


Have you heard of the song Ebony and Ivory?

Does black and white mix as good football and men. Are we more drawn to races that are different to ours? Do we secretly desire the unknown and want to taste forbidden fruit? Do you like blue eyed blonde’s or bearded men or chocolate skin with big brown eyes.

What do you think when you see a black and white or black and Asian or Asian and white couple? Nothing at all, it’s normal. Sell out and traitors. Can they not find their own kind? Stealing our men and women. Are these the thoughts that enter your head. I’ll admit when I was younger and more ignorant I did not like seeing Asian men with white women. I would wonder what they saw in them and secretly thought to myself, he isn’t going to marry her and it’s just a time pass. Now I am a lot and wiser. At least I like to think I am. Mixed relationships do not faze me and I welcome them.

In big cities like London mixed couples blend into the background and don’t stop traffic. But, in some Northern or rural cities mixed couples can raise eyebrows and turn heads. How many times have you seen a mixed couple and took a double take? When I was growing up in the Midlands we were the only Asian family in the the town and the white boys never looked twice at me. For them I was dirty and not worthy. Or it could have been that they just didn’t find me hot.

Mixed children can find it hard growing up, as often they can be rejected by both races. The mixed Pakistani and white girl does not look Asian at all, yet can speak Punjabi. The Asian kids at schools don’t know what to do with her. Some find her fascinating and others think she is not one of them, so don’t include her into their group. The English children tease her about her colouring. What is this girl whose torn by two identities meant to do? What culture should she accept and embrace. It is not easy fitting into two cultures as you can never please everyone. Therefore, it is better to just be true to yourself.

The mixed black and white girl has crazy afro hair, green eyes and tanned skin. She has both Caucasian and African features. The girls hate on her, as the black men go crazy for her skin colour. She doesn’t have to spend as long as her black sisters taming her wild mane. When she straightens her hair you cannot tell that she is mixed and some can mistake her for being Spanish. But is it her fault? No, so don’t hate on her and accept her.

Do these mixed people get the best of both worlds? Are they are at advantage? Or do they find it harder to fit in? How do you react towards them? One of my closest friends is mixed, half black and half white. She says she is more accepted by white people than she is by black women. Black men don’t think she is black enough due to her taste in women, and some black women hate on her because of her lighter skin tone. She did not ask to be mixed, so treat her fairly and equally.

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35 thoughts on “Mixed relationships…How do we view them?

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  9. I like that quote too habibi, I have several converts in my family and Mashallah they have embraced islam to the fullest and I think that’s what matters most is a persons Deen not the colour of their skin.

    I myself am full pakistani and practising muslim but can often get mixed for mediterrinean or even white and it was often fellow asians that gave me the most stick at school.

    But hey as long as you accept yourself and are happy, it doesn’t matter what others think.

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    • Thank you. I wanted to show the alternative view point and highlight the challenges people face when converting. It was written from a first hand view. :)I am glad you like it.

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